9 Emotional Stages Of Finding Out That Your Ex Is Engaged
Whether you’re over your ex or not – watching them getting engaged is bound to be an emotional rollercoaster for you. You’ve shared a significantly big part of your life with this person and at some point, in your life, they were the closest person to you.
It doesn’t matter how long ago you guys broke up or whether you two remained friends after, finding out your ex got engaged is like a good punch in your gut.
It’s not even like you want them back but you’re bound to doubt everything you know and feel.
Here are the stages you’re definitely going to go through when you find out your ex is engaged.
1. The first time you see the Facebook announcement.
Even if you’ve deleted your ex or blocked them, one of your friends or acquaintances is definitely going to update you on their engagement and even send you a screen shot of the engagement picture. The first time you see the picture, you’re going to feel this soul crushing pain of knowing you’ve lost them forever.
2. The sheer and utter disbelief that they’re actually engaged!
You won’t be able to believe the fact that your ex is actually engaged. Even when you’re looking at their engagement picture with your own eyes, you’re going to think it’s all a big hoax because it definitely cannot be true!
3. The anger you feel knowing that your ex has truly moved on.
You probably already knew your ex had moved on but them being engaged officially shuts all gates between you two and seals any chance of you guys ever getting together. You’ll be angry about the fact that they were the ones to seal this door shut and not you.
4. The obsession of wanting to know every detail about their new fiancé.
You will obviously want to know everything you can about their new fiancé. You will be possessed with finding out how much ever you can about them and spend an incredible amount of time stalking them on Facebook.
5. The sadness because you know – your ex is marrying someone else.
You’ll feel this pain in your heart knowing your ex is engaged. It’s not because you’re still in to them or want to get back with them but it’s normal to feel this pain. It’s just knowing that you guys are done for good.
6. You begin to doubt yourself for ever breaking up with them.
There are times when you start thinking about all the times you guys spent together and whether you did the right thing by letting them go in the first place. This doubt is a part of the healing process.
7. Getting drunk because there’s nothing you can do about it.
You have to get drunk because to be honest, in the end we all just need a reason to drink whether we are happy or sad. Drinking isn’t going to solve any of your problems but it will definitely make you feel a whole lot better!
8. Accepting your fate and knowing the two of you will never be together again.
You finally accept the fact that they’re engaged and that the two of you were never meant to be. They’ve clearly moved on in their life and there’s no reason for you to be hung up on the past and rethink everything.
9. Feeling happy for them because you’re over them and want what’s good for them.
You finally stop thinking about yourself and are genuinely happy for them. Good for them that they’ve moved on and found someone that they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
You aren’t really in the head space to get married anyway and are thoroughly enjoying your single life!